Kyle and Kelsey Kupecky have written a book called The Chase; Trusting God With Your Happily Ever After. Kyle is formerly of the Christian band Anthem Lights and Kelsey is the daughter of Christian author Karen Kingsbury. They met and fell in love and let God write their love story that continues on in their marriage today. My oldest daughter is a huge fan of both of them.
I had signed up to review the book, published by Revell, however my daughter pre-ordered it on her own. They both arrived at the same time and she finished it before I did.
Actually, she finished it in ONE DAY.
Who better to review a book than a young lady who is part of the demographic that the book is aimed at?
So without further ado let me introduce, my oldest daughter, Cait.
Give her a warm welcome in the comments below!
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One year ago I was surfing the web (Instagram to be more specific) when I came across a post from one of my favorite music artists about how he and his wife were going to write a book. Needless to say, I was extremely excited. Two of my role models were writing a book! I didn’t even know the topic and I still couldn’t wait. Some time went by and I nearly forgot that this event was happening. Life became complicated as I was wrapping up my high school career and registering for college. Then they announced the topic and it couldn’t have come at a more providential time. The topic? Letting God write your “happily ever after”. You see, I have this “problem.” I’ve never dated anyone. (I know, I know at my age that is NOT a problem. Fifteen year old me couldn’t see that yet.) I couldn’t wait for it to be released. I just knew that this book was going to be life changing.
I was right.
This book covers so many topics about guys and relationships that I have been struggling with and they are presented in a clear, understandable, and godly way. Their first topic, and one that was repeated throughout the book was that our first priority should be chasing after God. God is the only one who knows our deepest secrets and our greatest desires. He is the lover of our soul. Once we are chasing after Him and Him alone he will bring someone along side us so that we can chase God together. Or something like that. The point is, we must chase God first. Otherwise all of this is pointless. (No pun intended.)
Of course they also covered topics about dating and how to know if a guy or relationship is worth it. One example being standards. I’ve felt for a long time that maybe the reason I’m still single is that my standards are too high. Surely there can not be a guy out there that meets every quality I want. Kelsey covered that in a section entitled “The List.” After sharing a relatable story about her own list making attempts she says to us:
“Never think that your list is too long or that your standards are too high. Keep adding to that list. And never ever for one second think, My list is too unrealistic, or, This guy that I’ve created on paper isn’t out there. God knows, and His timing is perfect.”
Another thing I’ve received flak for from my friends is letting the guy come after me. Why shouldn’t I text him first? Why shouldn’t the girl ask the guy out? Kyle and Kelsey cover that extensively throughout the book but most specifically in the chapter “Call me Maybe.” A whole chapter on why the guys should be the ones to lead and pursue. It’s in their nature. It’s the way God designed us. Kyle says:
“Have patience. Trust God’s timing. Don’t rush it. Let him pursue you. Feel free to give subtle signs that you are into him (we find these very helpful, in fact), but don’t lead the relationship for him.
If a godly guy you’re interested in isn’t making the move, then maybe he’s not the one for you. Or maybe he is not ready for a relationship. Again, have patience. It’s better to be single and wait for the right guy than to be with the wrong guy when the right guy shows up.”
Thank you Kyle. Now I just need to work on my patience.
Overall the book made me realize (not that I haven’t been told it a million times by my parents) that I am special, and one-in-a-million and should never settle. God has created me and placed me in my own unique story with my own Prince Charming waiting for me. My story won’t look like Kyle and Kelsey’s and it won’t look like my parents, but it will be my own, in God’s timing.
Like Jeremiah 29:11(NIV) says:
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
I can’t wait to see God’s plans for me.
(I also highly recommend Kyle’s music. Especially the song Plans, based off the verse above.)
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Thank you, Cait, for sharing your thoughts here on my blog. It is wonderful to have you guest post here on Hiking Toward Home.
*The book, The Chase, was sent to me by the publisher in lieu of reviewing it here on my blog.
